10 Writing Lessons

What I’ve learned about writing in the past few years would fill a book. But a brief article will have to do for now. First, a quick recap of my fiction journey thus far.

My second grade teacher asked all her students what we wanted to be when we grew up. I said, “An author.” I have no idea where that came from. Obviously something had been brewing in that little still-developing brain. She asked me, “What have you written?” I said, “Nothing yet. I’m not grown up yet.” She said, “You’re not an author until you’ve written something.”

So I went home and wrote something. A story, fit on a single page. Perhaps I invented flash fiction but didn’t get the credit. I showed my mom (that’s ‘mum’ in metric), who gushed over it and said what a wonderful story it was and what a great writer I was. My first review. She posted it on the fridge. My first publication. I’d never been prouder.

This continued, but by high school I realized there weren’t a lot of paying jobs for writers. I took journalism and joined the school newspaper – a paying career until I could write my bestseller. Went to college and majored in journalism. Went to work for a newspaper. Got married. Had kids. Got a mortgage. Writing fiction sort of fell by the wayside as life took over.

Good thing. I needed some life experiences before knowing how to write fiction that might resonate with any readers other than my mom.

Then, while living in Asia, kids almost grown and an additional twenty years of life under my belt, the fiction bug bit again. Bit hard. I began writing a novel.

The story flowed from my subconscious directly out my fingertips. The character took over my mind. The thrill, the obsession, the joy of writing changed my life from that point forward.

I had almost finished the novel, and I’d read lots of articles about finding an agent and getting published. Read books on the subject. Researched agents. Attended a writers’ conference. Pitched my book to an agent at the conference.


Lesson #1: Do not pitch an agent until you’ve finished writing the book.

He loved the pitch, wanted to see the opening chapters. I e-mailed them about midnight that evening. Figured I had a few weeks to finish writing the novel. He e-mailed back at five a.m. wanting to see the whole manuscript. I finished writing it that weekend.

Lesson #2: When you’ve finished writing your novel, you’ve just begun.

It’s not a novel. It’s a first draft. I didn’t realize that. I thought it had fallen perfectly onto the page the first time.

I joined a writers group to learn more about writing, the craft and the business of getting published. An incredible bunch of writers, all of genres I never read. I learned more from this group in a year than I knew was possible. How to build a world from the fantasy writers. How to stir the emotions from the romance writers. How to build suspense from the mystery writers. How to shock and surprise from the horror writers. How to critique gently from the YA writers.


Lesson #3: Associate with other writers.

You need the camaraderie of those who share the passion. Non-writers cannot understand what goes on inside your mind. In fact, you’re better off not trying to explain. They will recommend professional counseling or medication, and they’ll make their children play indoors when you’re home.


Lesson #4: Read outside your genre. It broadens your scope of writing tools.

Lesson #5: Learn to take critique and criticism from other writers.

Don’t just look for people to tell you how wonderful you are or you’ll never get better. And when the criticism really starts to get under your skin and makes you a bit defensive, even angry, that’s a good time to listen carefully. It’s probably hitting close to home. Thank them for ripping your soul to shreds. It needs it.

I revised and edited and rewrote based on feedback from the writers group. I queried more agents. And more. Some form rejections. Several asked for partial chapters and a synopsis. Quite a few asked for the full manuscript. I got glowing letters back saying how great it was, how the character was mesmerizing, the writing impressive, the story compelling, but…


Lesson #6: Learn to accept rejection and not let your emotions go on a rollercoaster ride.

A request for a partial, and I’d be excited. A full, I’d be deliriously happy. A rejection, I’d become depressed to the point of sticking my head in a large tub of chocolate ice cream or an exhaust pipe and never writing again.

Allow yourself a reasonable amount of emotion for a reasonable amount of time. Wallow in it and then move on. Keep querying.

I joined Authonomy, an online writers’ community, for more feedback. I learned how to participate in an online group. I learned what and who to avoid in online groups. I made some writer friends for life whom I’ve never met in person.


Lesson #7: Be judicious with online groups, and with what you allow yourself to say.

Your words online live forever and can be searched by agents, prospective employers and crazed ex-spouses looking to renew that restraining order.

While still querying my first novel, I began writing my second. It’s amazing how much my writing had improved – from word choice to character arc to plot development to scene-setting to the novel’s organization, pace and flow. I didn’t realize how much I had learned about the craft during the writing and multiple revisions of my first novel. Beta readers often said things like, “I liked Carry Me Away, but I love Hannah’s Voice. Have you finished it yet?”


Lesson #8: Keep writing something new while querying the finished work.

Keep honing your skills and keep your creative juices flowing. It helps to offset the emotional rollercoaster of queries and rejections. You might even realize that your second book is so much better than your first that maybe your first isn’t as great as you once thought. Maybe your first book will never be published. Or your second. But with each novel you write, your art is honed and your craft is polished. Many of the greatest writers we know today wrote several novels before ever getting one published, often after dozens or hundreds of rejections. It’s not easy becoming an overnight sensation in the literary world.


Lesson #9: Never, ever, ever give up.

You need to write. Your soul requires it of you. There are readers out there waiting to read what you have to say. They need to read it. The quality of their lives depends on it. But first, you must learn to write it the way it’s meant to be written.


Lesson #10: Realize how much you don’t know about writing.

Looking back on the journey thus far and how much I’ve learned about writing, I realize this: What I have yet to learn about writing would fill a library.

This article previously appeared in the British writers’ magazine, Words With Jam, www.wordswithjam.co.uk.

8 Responses to “10 Writing Lessons”

  • megan Says:

    Great advice Robb. Some of these things we learn too late.

  • Greta Says:

    This certainly resonates, Rob. I hope newbies give this a read.

  • Karen Cioffi Says:

    Great tips, numbers 9 and 10 especially.

  • Laurie Sanders Says:

    What a wonderful collection of tips and advice. I would add to number two. I would say don’t EXPECT the manuscript to flow from you in perfect form. Writing for most of us is a form of discovery. We have the essence of what we want to communicate in the idea and the scenes floating about in our heads. But rarely does the novel flow from us that smoothly. It is okay to write it really rough and to come back and push the pieces around, cut and trim, and so on on another pass. I believe that as long as writers hold onto the belief that their first draft should be “good” that they will be stressed when approaching it, because very few of us write exactly what we mean to write the first pass through. Most of us get there with sequential passes.

    Great advice…I’m posting a link to it on my blog. 🙂

    • Robb Says:

      Laurie, thanks for stopping by and for the link. I agree, writers shouldn’t expect a first draft to come out perfect. When I was writing my first novel, I didn’t know that. ha. Was a rude awakening.

  • Hena Says:

    Hey Robb, Good advise in a nutshell! I wasn’t aware that writers have plenty of unpublished materials or incomplete for that matter. Your words have inspired me to keep writing regardless of completion and stay motivated and enhance skills despite the critique. Thx! Hena.